Raising Boys

John 16: 21

A woman, when she gives birth to a child, has grief (anguish, agony) becuase her time has come. But when she has delivered the child, she no longer remembers her pain (trouble, anguish) becuase she is so glad that a man (child, human being) has been born into the world (her world).

I am a mother of two wonderful boys, i never really imagined i was going to end up being mum of boys but God never makes mistakes.

When i had my first son, my heart was filled with so much joy, i could not explain it and to crown it all up he came on my birthday (Nathaniel – Gift from God). he has been a source of blessing and joy to me ever since.

Three years after i had my second boy whom i thought was going to be a girl but as soon as we saw the scan i was glad that Nathaniel now has a playmate (Joshua – Saviour, Deliverer) his name came from the fact that he literally died at birth and God brought him back to life.

Here i am with these two wonderful annointed souls that God has decided to bring into my life, feeling blessed and honoured for God to entrust me with generations present in their loins yet to be born, for me to nature, raise, shape, discipline, love, protect, lead, teach and most of all guide in the way of the Lord that they may fullfill purpose.

With boys you get so much love and affection expressed to you like never before, being the only girl in my house has its own privilleges – you dont get to share you stuff with no one. You get triple the love, triple the gifts, triple the hugs but also triple the man problem.

With boys you have to teach them to be strong and bold and at the same time tender and sweet, to respect others and to command respect, to be responsible and to manage, to organise and to build, then to discern and to see with the inner eyes. To be a solution and to add value, and ultimately to know their God and who they are in christ Jesus.

My Journey as a Mum of boys has been an interesting one, i look at my boys and i can see parts of me in them and also parts of my husband in them. i can also see how significantly different they are.

My first son loves to play football and he does a good job at being dedicated to this passion, he loves to play video games and he is very academically alert, he loves to strive to be the best at everything he does.

While my second son has got a very sweet and large heart, he loves to help out, by the way he is an upcoiming chef as he has got a unique sense of smell and creativity when it comes to cooking, he is very observant ( he is the only one that notices when i change my hair style or shape my brows or even polish my finger nails. He can sense your emotions and try to connect.

As a mother, God has your purpose all planned out, he has got an assignment for your life. Sally Clarkson say “He gave you your child/children on purpose, he has intentionally entrusted you with their  unique traits, special personality, and precious heart to specifically be guided and loved by you”.

Look forward to my next post on challenges i have faced raising boys



One Night with the King

Esther 2: 17

When Esther spent the night with the King, God caused his heart to love her more than all the women and she found grace and favour in his sight.

What did Esther do that was different from all the other women :

Having the holy spirit within you, sets you apart from the rest, a wife can not fully perform her role the way God intended without the help of the holy spirit.

There is power within a woman and it takes knowing the holy spirit intimately for you to awaken this power. God has wired women to be able to give the ultimate pleasure to their husbands – The man carries so heavy a responsibility, that God wired the woman to give him comfort, support, pleasure, a place he can go to relax, clear his mind, get inspired, be honoured, be praised, and be whole.

In my experience, God is the only one that can make this hapen, because in the mist of all that life throws at you as a woman, sometimes the last thing you want is to pleasure your man or be there for him in the capacity that he desires.

God must have done something when Esther was in with the King that made the King feel – i want this girl more than any other.

In this age and time as much as we need to take care of our bodies, eat healthy, exercise, clean up, makeup, attend to all our beauty needs we also need to pray and communicate with the holy spirit, for he is the one that would cause all things to work togehter for our good even during intercourse with our husbands. to touch the right places, say the right things, make the right moves and pleasure him, for him to want no other woman but you.

Every night with your husband feeling like the first always. 


The Empire of a Warrior Family 1

In a Warrior Family the Children are the troops- ground army

The wife is Co-captain (the Pillar), who takes instructions from the King (the ruler, her husband) .

The husband is the King the president, the overall decision maker

KIDS-When you empower your kids to know the word and know how to pray they can conquer their territory and take grounds. In their schools they will know how to invite God into daily activity, when they are troubled with any issue that they can’t bring to you, they will go in their closet and will be comfortable to speak to God about it. The ground army is able to defeat little battles before they become big issues. They will take bullying to God in prayer, they will take choosing friends to God in prayer, they will make decision according to the leading of the Holy Spirit.

WIFE/ MOTHER – A wife / mother is the pillar of the Empire(the home) your family’s atmosphere feeds off of your mood and attitude, everyone is drawing from you, depending on you, you love unconditionally, you give your time, your strength, abilities everything, your worth is far above rubies. The heart of your husband safely trusts you; for you do him good and not evil.

She girds herself with strength, and strengthens her arms. she reaches out her hands to the needy. Strength and honour are her clothing; She shall rejoice in time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness. She watches over the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.

Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her: “Many daughters have done well, But you excel them all.” Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the Lord , she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, And let her own works praise her in the gates.(proverbs 31).

Striving to be / become the proverbs 31 woman clears the way for your husband to reign and rule in the capacity that God has called him too.

HUSBAND/FATHER– the ruler the foundation of the family the anchor the whole family holds onto, the MAN is the head of the Empire(home) the decision maker, he receives from God for this entire household, he is in partnership with God to take Dominion. He is god on earth.

The Man receives a clear vision and understanding from God on the purpose for his family here on earth, he is to lead this household to the promiseland, secure, provide and instruct them all the way through.

Family was Gods design with intent and purspose.

Ola Verissimo so far

In the comfort of my home i take an account of my life, how far I have come, where I have been, experiences I have had, disappointments, broken hearts, joy, fulfilment, gladness, achievements,setbacks, blessings, additions, how much I have matured and grown physically, spiritually, mentally, how much I have changed, in size, shape, thinking, in the way I react to situations, how much knowledge I have acquired.

Wow I can not begin to analyse, indeed everyone has got a story and something to share.

Life has been great, exciting, full of adventures. And I know is that there are still many more greatness ahead of me.